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Supercalifrag…. Never Mind

Supercalifrag…. Never Mind

 

Crown Me Queen of Goodness

Supercalifrag…never mind. Trying to be Super All That is such a myth. Whoever started the whole “I can do everything!” needs to stand in the corner with their nose touching the crevice. Don’t be crowning me  Queen of Goodness – or anyone else.  We’re all working stiffs here, shoring up as best we can, and dealing with Stuff. Trusting, hoping, praying, working so that the Stuff doesn’t do us in.

Does this sound negative? Sorry – I don’t mean it to. Just the opposite.

If ever Myth Busters needed to be called, it’s over this whole Super See Me Do It All And Do It Well concept. Forget it. Top of the Mountain, blissful every-day living is a myth.  Buying into it means we’re going to be continually frustrated because our life isn’t the we we thought it would be.  That ever- illusive error in rational thinking.

Top of the Mountain

This isn’t me being negative or doubtful. It’s me being real. Accepting that, like Gordon B. Hinckley once aptly put it:

 Anyone who imagines that bliss is normal is going to waste a lot of time running around shouting that he’s been robbed. The fact is that most putts don’t drop, most beef is tough, most children grow up to just be people, most successful marriages require a high degree of mutual toleration, most jobs are more often dull than otherwise.  Life is like an old time rail journey- delays, sidetracks, smoke, dust, cinders and jolts, interspersed only occasionally by beautiful vistas and thrilling burst of speed. The trick is to thank the Lord for letting you have the ride.

This is good stuff. Real, helpful, clear vision of the mortal journey. At least, as I’ve experienced it. And as I’ve seen so many good people continue on, doing their thing- whatever that is – trying to gracefully take the ride.

Take a Ride – Even if it’s in a Circle

Here’s what I would love to help put a stop to:  The self loathing, the “I don’t measure up”, the negative self- views and the frustrations because we aren’t super stars.  Even folks who think they are?  Nah. They might be well known. They might have lots of money, or fame, or adulation, or clothes. But Super stars? Nope. Those are in the heavens…. part of God’s creations in the universe.

And the few who seem to be Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious? They may be riding a wave of celebrity or fortune, but they have the same self-doubts and concerns that you and I have. Really. Don’t you think the Real Joy in life is finding acceptance and satisfaction in the simple things? I do.

Simple Joy

 

So – Here is what I am trying to do:

1-  Appreciate the things I CAN do.  It may not be as much as it used to be. I move more slowly and have to pick and choose what I should and shouldn’t take on.

2- Accept the road I’m on. Rome wasn’t built in a day. I’m not either. So, every day I try to do as well as I can. Then… let it go.

P.S. This part is hard for me. Really hard. I have a tendency to re-think, over-think, worry about what I said or didn’t say, or fret over not doing it well enough. But that’s a problem I’m working on. And I’m doing better. That counts, right?

Improvement Is Good

3-  Throw out the whole idea of PERFECT.  God is perfect. The Savior is perfect. No one else I know is anywhere near perfect. The flaws, in fact, are a blessing that help us remember to lean on the Savior. My imperfections – my weaknesses – while sometimes bothersome, are a gift to help me accept those delays, sidetracks, cinders and jolts that make up my life here.

4- Be as kind to myself as I try to be to other people- Seriously. If I would cut myself as much slack as I do other people? I’d be a lot better off. The comparison with others is never a good idea, and is self-defeating.  Okay- it’s going back to the top of my To Be List.

Self Reflection – Be Kind

5-  Remember.  If it’s a tough time [and many are] I can remember better times, knowing I’ll get through this present blah. I can remember to enjoy Right Now. It’s what I have. I can make the most of it. I can be in the moment, and soak up every detail. Well- as much as my ADD mind will allow. 🙂  And I can remember the goodness of  having the ride.

The whole superfragilistic notion? Forget about it… except for Mary Poppins reruns.  A normal life – like most of us have – can be a very good life. Sometimes hard, often frustrating, once in a while overwhelming. But there are simple joys, simple ways to improve, and new ways of seeing the quiet almost-hidden joys right in front of us – if we’ll look with the heart.

Look With Heart

Regular Joes – or Janes – make the world go ’round. Our normal, everyday goodness is a blessing to someone else. That’s a good thing. And goodness matters.

 

 

 

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8 Comments

  1. Well said! Now to nudge my daughter your way.

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    • 🙂 It’s quite the lifelong learning, isn’t it? Send her .. I’ll catch her, and hug her, and try to open her eyes to her own goodness. 🙂
      Thanks for writing!
      Vickey

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  2. Bravo! It is amazing how many people think perfectionism is a virtue rather than the illness that it is. And then they try to pressure you to measure up to their idea of who and what you should be. It’s such an energy drainer and waster! Meanwhile, I’m the one who has something “wrong” with me because I have given up on the idea of achieving it all? It gets really old, really fast.

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    • Thanks, Heidi! I am soooo with you. Sad how easily we can get sucked in to the idea that we “have” to measure up…. to what?! Nope. Nothing wrong with you…. Thank you so much for sharing.

      Hugs –
      Vickey

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  3. Vickey,
    Of all your blogs, maybe this is my very favorite. Because you hit the nail on the head, dear friend. Most days that we are blessed with, are “normal.” The friends that I admire with all my heart tell me of their shortcomings….sometimes I don’t see it at all….sometimes I do. But those little “chips in the paint” make them even more dear to me-it makes them human. We all, every single one of us, has chips. We can try to do our best. Some days we can hit the ball out of the park….some days, we can barely make it to the plate. It’s what makes knowing Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ so completely amazing-because they ARE perfect. How amazing is that? To think that Jesus walked this earth, spreading the word of God in such an understandable way, to some very “ordinary” men. And b/c of these “ordinary” men…..most of the world knows Jesus Christ today. That in and of itself is a MIRACLE!
    Thank you again, dear friend, for this inspiring blog. It touched my heart, and brought me up on a cold, wet, blustery day!

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    • Awww…thank you, Debbie. I, too, like those ‘chips’ in my friends… I’ve had to work harder at accepting my own. But it’s worth the effort. Like Heidi wrote here, it’s a time and energy waster to think we can be perfect here and now. I love it that we have the Savior to help us in our shortcomings. I’m grateful it lifted you. I love it that we’re all just regular people. The more we share and get it all out there in the open… the sooner we can all find more uplift and personal peace. 🙂

      Thank you for taking time to write!
      Vickey

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  4. Well, maybe both comments went through? If so, please disregard the first one and keep the second. Thanks.

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    • This is what came through, Crystal. 🙂 Maybe I missed a message? Thanks for writing!

      Reply

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