Supercalifrag…never mind. Trying to be Super All That is such a myth. Whoever started the whole “I can do everything!” needs to stand in the corner with their nose touching the crevice. Don’t be crowning me Queen of Goodness – or anyone else. We’re all working stiffs here, shoring up as best we can, and dealing with Stuff. Trusting, hoping, praying, working so that the Stuff doesn’t do us in.
Does this sound negative? Sorry – I don’t mean it to. Just the opposite.
If ever Myth Busters needed to be called, it’s over this whole Super See Me Do It All And Do It Well concept. Forget it. Top of the Mountain, blissful every-day living is a myth. Buying into it means we’re going to be continually frustrated because our life isn’t the we we thought it would be. That ever- illusive error in rational thinking.
This isn’t me being negative or doubtful. It’s me being real. Accepting that, like Gordon B. Hinckley once aptly put it:
Anyone who imagines that bliss is normal is going to waste a lot of time running around shouting that he’s been robbed. The fact is that most putts don’t drop, most beef is tough, most children grow up to just be people, most successful marriages require a high degree of mutual toleration, most jobs are more often dull than otherwise. Life is like an old time rail journey- delays, sidetracks, smoke, dust, cinders and jolts, interspersed only occasionally by beautiful vistas and thrilling burst of speed. The trick is to thank the Lord for letting you have the ride.
This is good stuff. Real, helpful, clear vision of the mortal journey. At least, as I’ve experienced it. And as I’ve seen so many good people continue on, doing their thing- whatever that is – trying to gracefully take the ride.
Here’s what I would love to help put a stop to: The self loathing, the “I don’t measure up”, the negative self- views and the frustrations because we aren’t super stars. Even folks who think they are? Nah. They might be well known. They might have lots of money, or fame, or adulation, or clothes. But Super stars? Nope. Those are in the heavens…. part of God’s creations in the universe.
And the few who seem to be Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious? They may be riding a wave of celebrity or fortune, but they have the same self-doubts and concerns that you and I have. Really. Don’t you think the Real Joy in life is finding acceptance and satisfaction in the simple things? I do.
So – Here is what I am trying to do:
1- Appreciate the things I CAN do. It may not be as much as it used to be. I move more slowly and have to pick and choose what I should and shouldn’t take on.
2- Accept the road I’m on. Rome wasn’t built in a day. I’m not either. So, every day I try to do as well as I can. Then… let it go.
P.S. This part is hard for me. Really hard. I have a tendency to re-think, over-think, worry about what I said or didn’t say, or fret over not doing it well enough. But that’s a problem I’m working on. And I’m doing better. That counts, right?
3- Throw out the whole idea of PERFECT. God is perfect. The Savior is perfect. No one else I know is anywhere near perfect. The flaws, in fact, are a blessing that help us remember to lean on the Savior. My imperfections – my weaknesses – while sometimes bothersome, are a gift to help me accept those delays, sidetracks, cinders and jolts that make up my life here.
4- Be as kind to myself as I try to be to other people- Seriously. If I would cut myself as much slack as I do other people? I’d be a lot better off. The comparison with others is never a good idea, and is self-defeating. Okay- it’s going back to the top of my To Be List.
5- Remember. If it’s a tough time [and many are] I can remember better times, knowing I’ll get through this present blah. I can remember to enjoy Right Now. It’s what I have. I can make the most of it. I can be in the moment, and soak up every detail. Well- as much as my ADD mind will allow. And I can remember the goodness of having the ride.
The whole superfragilistic notion? Forget about it… except for Mary Poppins reruns. A normal life – like most of us have – can be a very good life. Sometimes hard, often frustrating, once in a while overwhelming. But there are simple joys, simple ways to improve, and new ways of seeing the quiet almost-hidden joys right in front of us – if we’ll look with the heart.
Regular Joes – or Janes – make the world go ’round. Our normal, everyday goodness is a blessing to someone else. That’s a good thing. And goodness matters.